Prom season is here, and I’ve noticed that females are waiting instead of acting. They’re banding in the halls sending sharp glances at prospective dates. Their looks scream, “Ask me out.”
Quite frankly, I’m sick of it. I would like to be able to reach my locker without feeling like I’ve considered a major sin when I ignore a girl. I’ve done nothing wrong so why should I be thought of having made a mistake by not acting upon female whims?
Therefore, I’ve decided that I will no longer be swayed by long lashes, sweet perfume, and syrupy words.
I refuse to beg for somebody’s affection or attention. The social expectation that guys have to be the ones to confess and take initiative has to end. The hypes and stereotypes are getting more and more ridiculous by the day, and I refuse to be influenced.
Men have to be strong. Men shouldn’t cry or be too sentimental. Men should treat women with respect. Men should be more aware. Men shouldn’t be so shallow. The list goes on and on, twists and turns, and is laced with hypocrisy and oxymorons. It leaves me wondering: what does it mean to be a man?
My resolve is that I won’t be the one to confess. That I won’t be the one burdened with the duty of making somebody else happy. Contrary to my exterior, my heart is as tender as any woman’s.
Love is supposed to be mutual; ladies, do your part.
Redefining masculinity should start with redefining femininity.
I don’t want a stick thin girl plastered in cosmetics. I don’t need a girl that cries and clings. I need somebody that understands me, somebody who won’t assume that I’m “just a guy.”
Is that too much to ask for?
Ladies, I ask you to put yourselves in our shoes. When we look at somebody we have feelings for, our heart flutters just as quickly as yours. When we’re hurt, the tears we cry and the agony we feel are the same. When we hope, we too wish for the best.
Change things up a bit. Cast aside those restrictive, degrading gender roles and start seeing things our way. Don’t insist that we should be the ones that should change. If we did nothing wrong, don’t assume that it’s our fault. Learn how to accept us for who we are; learn how to make the first move. So don’t coo my name, just say it.
Don’t wait for time to be lost.